Catherine Walsh
Health and Fitness Coach

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On the Offense

June 7, 2019

There seems to be a lot of discussion lately about how easily people are offended these days.  You hear allegations and accusations about certain people being "too soft," "delicate snowflakes," or even "entitled brats."

Personally, I'm not sure that people are more sensitive, so much as that they are simply more comfortable voicing their feelings about social, political, and personal issues.  This is largely due to the ease and relative safety and anonymity that comes with social media and other internet platforms- people can now say their piece from behind a screen rather than on the streets.  In any case, this is not necessarily a bad thing.  As long as it leads to respectful and constructive dialogue that leads to positive change and mutual fairness, it's actually quite wonderful.

But that's not the kind of offense I'm here to talk about.

I'm talking about offense that is much more personal.  The type that each and every one of us has been both guilty of and victim to.  I'm talking about those little things that we say or do that offends someone close to us- and vice versa.  Well, let me tell you something.

Most of the time, the offending party has no intention of hurting or offending anyone.  And in many cases, the "offender" had no idea the words or actions in question had the potential to offend in the first place!

I'd like to share a personal example.  As many of you know, I like to play pickleball.  I had registered to play in a tournament with another player, who I knew and had played with some before- I'll call her Teri.  As we practiced for the tournament together, Teri sharply criticized me for EVERY mistake on EVERY point.  And not in the always in the nicest way.  I thought she was being mean and incredibly rude, and my gut reaction was to take offense.  I stayed in that place of being offended for several weeks.  But I tried to see the situation from her perspective.  I knew that she really wanted us to do well in the tournament, and that perhaps she considered her blunt remarks to be a sort of "tough love" that was intended to light a fire in me that would ultimately make me a better player.  (For the record, this is NOT the way to motivate me).  But if this was Teri's method of motivating someone- or being motivated herself- then she just would have been doing what she thought was right.

As it turned out, I was unable to play in the tournament, but was able to find another partner, Sara.  When the day tournament arrived a few weeks later, I came out to watch her play.  Teri and her partner happened to be in the same bracket as another pair of players that I knew and had become friends with, Kelly and Jane.  At one point, I noticed Kelly sitting by herself so I walked over and talked with her.  After a little while we went to use the ladies room, and as Kelly walked out I wished her good luck in her next match.  Well, it so happened that their next match was against Teri and Sara, and when it got back to Teri that I had wished Kelly well, she apparently thought that meant that I was rooting for Kelly and Jane over her and Sara.  Now Teri was the one who had been offended.  Words and actions that I considered to be gestures of sportsmanship and goodwill were translated in Teri's mind as betrayal and rejection.

I would like to say that Teri and I have mended things, but despite my efforts to reach out to her, she refuses to acknowledge them.  So I suppose I could take offense to her offense and perpetuate the cycle, but I'm not going to.  Teri can choose to talk to me or not, hear me or not, believe me or not, forgive me or not.  Either way, I'm not offended.

Pink Roses

August 23, 2018

I love pink roses.

The other day I was at Harris Teeter picking up staples for my son:  milk, apple juice, peanut butter crackers, Little Bites (don't judge!) and the like.  As I passed the floral department I noticed several bunches of roses in various colors:  red, yellow, white, even purple.

And PINK.  Specifically, light pink.  My favorite pink.  That beautiful blush pink that reminds me of summer sunsets on the beach.

So guess what I did?  I bought them.  For myself.  Just because.

They are right here next to me in an old glass vase as I write this.  Every time I look up I see them in all their natural beauty- even as the foliage and outer petals begin to wilt and fade a bit.  Every time I take a breath I get a waft of that exquisitely familiar fragrance that is impossible to put in a bottle.

They make me happy.  

There was a time not so long ago that I never would have dreamed of buying myself flowers.  I would never have beautiful, fresh flowers on my table unless somebody else bought them.  Because unless somebody else thought I was special enough to have flowers- for my birthday, Mother's Day, or other special occasion- then I didn't really deserve them.  Or the beauty and joy they bring to my surroundings and heart.

And it may sound strange, but I really think they make me a better person.  Because I am a happier person- and don't you find that happy people tend to want to make other people happy?!

So here's my challenge for you today.  Do something that makes you feel LOVED and CARED FOR.  Something you would not normally do.  Turn off your phone.  Get a massage.  Take a long walk outside (it's a GORGEOUS day in North Carolina today)!  Pour yourself a glass of wine and soak in the tub.  Find a comfortable chair and settle in with a good book.

And don't forget the flowers! <3



Missed Shots

August 9, 2018

Have you ever felt really FRUSTRATED with how seemingly slow progress is toward a goal? Does it seem like despite your best efforts, you are just spinning your wheels? Do you get dejected thinking about the long road that still lies ahead, and wonder if you’ll ever make it to the end?


Let me share a personal story.  As many of you know, I took up pickleball back in November.  My motivation at the time was to step outside my comfort zone by trying something new, as well as making new friends- MY friends- during a major transitional stage in my life.  (That is another story for another day.  Back to today...)

I will never forget my first day.  My friend Johan met me at a nearby outdoor court and presented me with my first paddle, which resembled a ping pong paddle on steroids, and a pair of bright green whiffle balls.  He then proceeded to teach me the basic rules and had me practice hitting some balls.  He tossed several slow pitches my way, and I was able to hit most of them, albeit without much control as I had never really played a paddle sport in my life.

After about 45 minutes, he walked up to me and said, "Now I am going to take you to play some games!"

My stomach turned.  I stammered, "Are you sure I'm ready?"

"The only way to learn how to play is to just play." he replied.

So I followed him to Torrence Creek Elementary, where we met up with about 8 or 9 people taking turns playing this somewhat odd, but strangely addictive game.  Johan introduced me to everyone, then placed our paddles in line to play.  When our paddles came up, I played my first game.

And I was TERRIBLE.  I only managed to get a fair hit on roughly one-third of the balls hit to me.  Most of the time I either hit out of bounds (when I actually managed to get my paddle on the ball), or whiffed completely.

Since then I have been playing regularly but inconsistently- two or three times a week at the most.  Every aspect of my game has improved significantly, no question.

But it doesn't always feel like it.

Part of it is due to the simple fact that as I have improved, so have the others around me.  That makes it tougher to close the gap.

But the bigger part happens in the space between my ears.  As it has been pointed out to me, "You are only thinking about the one shot you missed.  You are forgetting about the six good shots you made before that!"

Can you relate?  It's probably not pickleball for you, but there is probably some area of your life that you are working on improving.  In fact I know there is if you are taking the time to read this blog!

Are you feeling down because you missed one (or even a few) workouts?  Strayed from your meal plan?  Stayed up too late?  Didn't drink enough water?

Are you so focused your own "one missed shot" that you have forgotten about how far you have come?  Are you doubting your ability to reach your goal?

Remember that missed shots are a necessary part of progress!  Nobody- and I mean nobody- gets to enjoy success without making LOTS of "missed shots" along the way!  
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Showing Up

May 11, 2018

"80 percent of life is showing up." -Woody Allen

Last weekend I showed up.  And it wasn't easy.  Part of me really wanted to turn off the alarm, roll over and go back to sleep.

I was so tired from half a day of driving, a full day of chasing my hyperactive 11-year-old around North Myrtle Beach, and a restless night with little sleep.  And I may done a bit too much celebrating (with a bit too much wine) with my mom and daughter the night before.  I felt bloated and heavy from traveling.  I hadn't been running consistently in months.  And oh yes- it was raining.

Even as I pulled on my beloved pink lulu skirt and favorite running shoes I thought about sitting this one out.

But I took a deep breath, stepped out onto the wet pavement, and headed up South Ocean Drive toward the music and sea of pink in front of me.  And you know what?  The closer I got to the starting line, the more excited I got.  That crazy, beautiful pre-race adrenaline was kicking in.  My pace and heart quickened.  I was totally untrained and unprepared for this race I had registered for over a year ago, but now I was really glad I hadn't stayed in bed.

The announcer called for the 5K participants to line up at the start.  Normally I would boldly proceed right to the front row, but this time I somewhat timidly found a hole in the crowd a few rows back and stopped there.  But as we waited for the gun, I kept inching forward little by little, until I finally found myself taking my favorite place to start every race (front row, far right).  I spotted my mom and son in the crowd outside the barriers.  Mom was taking pictures, L was waving excitedly and blowing kisses.

Then the announcer began counting down, the horn blew, and we were off.  I felt great!

I had a strong start and a solid first mile.  But around the mile and a half mark, my left calf started cramping.  BADLY.  I hadn't eaten anything that morning, and only had water to drink.  It was 70 degrees and about 90 percent humidity at 7:15AM, and I knew that it would have been prudent to take an Endurolyte that morning, or at least a few swigs of the Gatorade that sat in the fridge back at the condo.  But of course I hadn't thought about that at the time, and here I was paying the price.  I tried quickly stopping to stretch and massage out the throbbing knot that was my calf, but to no avail.  I had no choice but to WALK.

I don't know  exactly how far or long I walked (I wasn't wearing my Garmin- I forgot that too) but mercifully a Gatorade station for the half marathon had opened early, and blessed relief was in sight.  After gulping down that sweet, salty goodness the cramp dissipated and I started running again.  Slowly at first, then a little faster.

The next thing I knew I was rounding the corner from North Ocean Drive onto Main Street and the finish line.  I turned on the jets to sprint to the finish.  One of the runners who had passed my as my calf cramped was in my sight, and I decided that I was NOT going to let this girl beat me!  Somehow I found another gear and passed her about 10 feet before crossing the finish line.

It was not my best race.  I was tired, undertrained, and had to walk.  And although my time was far from a PR.  it was still good enough to win my age group and finish in the top 20 in a field of over 1300 runners.

Because I showed up.


Too Many Plates

April 19, 2018

I have a confession to make.

I am a terrible planner.  What I mean by that is I have a tendency to fill every open space in my calendar with SOMETHING.  I will schedule appointments, meetings, and classes back-to-back-to-back-to-back, without considering that I might need to take a little time to refresh and regroup before moving on to the next task.  And I've been that way for as long as I can remember.

It's a bad habit.  Because I invariably end up sick, injured, exhausted, or all of the above.  Then I am forced to take a break, and not by choice.  And it always seems to be at the most inopportune moment possible.  More than once, by more than one doctor, I have been expressly told that I needed to BACK OFF if I wanted my body to heal.

It starts by taking a good, hard look at the commitments I have made.  How many of these things do I really have  to do?  How many do I really want to do?  How many do I have to do myself- and how many can I hand off to someone else?  How many can I just drop all together?

I am finding myself in that place right now.  I have so many plates spinning, trying to keep them going, waiting to see which project takes off... and it's gotten to the point where I know I need to hand some off before the plates come crashing down around me.

Can any of you relate to this?  

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March 22, 2018

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Lemony Chicken Quinoa Soup

March 10, 2018

This soup is so easy to make, healthy and delicious on a cold, rainy day!  Here is the recipe:

1 tbsp. oil (I used Wildtree Roasted Garlic Grapeseed Oil)
2 stalks celery
2 medium carrots
1 small onion
4 cups chicken broth or stock
1 pound chicken breasts
2 tbsp. coconut oil (or butter)
2 tbsp. flour (I used coconut flour)
Juice of 2-3 lemons (about 1/4 cup)
1 cup dry quinoa
Salt and pepper to taste

Heat  oil in a large pot.  Chop celery, carrots, and onion. Saute about 5 minutes, then add broth or stock and chicken breasts. Bring to a boil, then simmer for about 15 minutes and remove chicken, set aside. In a small saucepan melt coconut oil (or butter) and whisk in flour till smooth, then add lemon juice; combine with soup. Add 1 cup dry quinoa, then shred the chicken and add back in. Cook on low heat until quinoa is cooked through, add salt and pepper if desired (I added 1 teaspoon each of Wildtree Rancher Steak Rub and Garlic Sea Salt). Bon appetite!
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Being a Beginner

February 23, 2018

Recently I took up pickleball.  Despite the fact that fitness is my passion, I have to tell you that I have NEVER been particularly good at sports.  My reaction time is incredibly slow, my sense of direction is dismal, and hitting a ball of any kind is a major challenge- even one that is not moving (golf, anyone?)

I tried playing softball, volleyball, tennis, and golf at various points, and was terrible at all of them.  So what made me think I could be good at pickleball?

For one, I got a lot of encouragement from a friend.  He assured me that not only did I have what it took to play well, but I would have a lot of fun and make a lot of new friends in the process.

After playing, practicing, and even taking lessons for about three months I can tell you the latter two are definitely true.  Pickleball is a super fun game that most anyone can pick up and the people in the Lake Norman PB tribe are amazing.  I am having a blast!

That being said...  I am still far from what I would consider to be a good- or even decent- pickleball player.  Don't get me wrong, I have improved a lot and continue to work and make progress.  Still, I find myself getting discouraged and frustrated with myself whenever I fault a serve, miss an easy shot, or make any unforced error.  As far as I am concerned,  I am still a beginner.

And that bothers me sometimes.

Which is kind of ridiculous, considering many of the people I play with have been playing for several months or years.  Many of them are or were tennis or racquetball players, so the very skills that stymie me are the same ones they were already proficient at.

But here's the thing:

There is nothing wrong with being a beginner!  

We are all beginners at everything at some point.  Even those with innate, "raw" talent need practice and work to realize that potential.  Additionally, I think that the most successful people in any sport- or any area of life- adopt a beginner's mentality.  Continue learning.  Continue practicing.  Continue working.  Continue asking questions and listening to others who are strong where you are weak.  And be the supporter and encourager of the beginners who are coming up behind you.

Is there something you have always wanted to do or try, but you stopped yourself because you were afraid of not being good at it?  If so, I would encourage you to take that leap of faith.  Do something different.  Try something new.  Frequently.  Know that you probably won't be very good at first, but that is okay!

Don't be afraid to be a beginner!

Putting Out The Self-Doubt

February 15, 2018

Yesterday was Ash Wednesday.  As you can imagine, there were numerous posts among my Facebook friends pertaining to what they were giving up for Lent.  Everything from soda, to chocolate, to alcohol, to Facebook itself were tagged as vices people were resolving to live without over the next forty days.  Others chose to adopt new behaviors and activities, such as exercising every day, drinking more water, or reading the Bible.

All these are admirable.   I do think, however, that it is useful to consider a few questions when deciding what to give up and/or take on for Lent:

  • Is this something that has the potential to make a real, positive change in your life, or is it simply an exercise in self-discipline?
  • To follow up, is this something you would consider making a permanent change once Lent is over?
  • How would/could this affect the other people in my life?
  • What role does God play in this decision?  Do you see this as an opportunity to connect with and depend on Him, or are you trying to "win his approval?"
With these questions in mind, I want to share with you what I have decided.

I am making a conscious effort to put out the self-doubt.

After much prayer and contemplation, it has been revealed to me that self-doubt has prevented me from pursuing and realizing my goals and dreams more than anything else.  Sometimes it has prevented me from giving my best effort; sometimes it has made me throw in the towel on a project or pursuit; and frequently it prevents me from putting my hat in the ring in the first place.

Not anymore.

I am incredibly adept at talking myself out of taking a chance on my dreams.   I secretly harbor a relentless fear that I would be rejected and/or exposed as "not good enough."  I figured that living my fantasy life in my head was preferable to risking the pain of taking a shot at making that life a reality and failing miserably.

Because of these tendencies, I know my own efforts and good intentions won't cut it.  I need God.  I need to put my faith in Him.
I need to trust Him to put the right people and opportunities in my path, and let Him speak and act through me.  

Here's something that popped into my head even as I post this:

When I doubt myself, I doubt Him.

And who am I to doubt Him??!


The 10 Minute Rule!

Happy Monday!

We all have times when we feel tired, worn out, or unmotivated to exercise! You might be wondering, how do I know if I need a day off, or if I just need a proverbial kick in the butt?

Please let me share with you "The Ten-Minute Rule." Simply put, commit to just ten minutes of your planned workout- maybe even at reduced intensity- and see how you feel. More often than not, once the blood and oxygen start flowing you will feel better and end up finishing the workout. However, if after that ten minutes you still feel worn out, respect that as a sign from your body that it needs to rest. And do so without guilt, knowing you gave it effort and at least got ten minutes out of it- a little bit of something is better than a whole lot of nothing!

So the next time you are dragging and feeling unmotivated, give it a try!

Riding the Waves

February 9, 2018 (originally published August 7, 2017)

Let's face it-  life is one choppy ride.

Think about it- if there were surefire paths to making lots of money, finding the person or career of your dreams, or living to the age of 100 in perfect health, wouldn't everyone be taking them?  Sure, there are steps you can take and behaviors to adopt that can improve your chances- but there are no guarantees.
Every decision we make entails risk.  No exceptions.  Even the decision to do nothing- under the guise of security and comfort in the known- puts you at risk of being left behind when everything and everyone else moves forward.

No matter how much we plan and prepare, there will always be situations that take us by surprise and knock our feet from underneath us.

So what do we do when our best-laid plans go awry?  What do we do when our future is uncertain?  What do we do when it seems like life is completely out of our control?!
Friends, I have been there!  Heck, I still go there!  But if I may, I'd like to share a visualization exercise called Ride The Wave that I created (although I'm probably not the first).  This was inspired by my amazing therapist, who introduced me to the analogy of the wave and emotion.  As a person who hates to cry, and who was routinely criticized for displaying negative emotions, I have always tended to squash these emotions with distractions and busy-ness.  This "permission" to feel them was an important step for me.

Ride The Wave Visualization.  Find a safe place, then acknowledge those uncomfortable feelings of sadness, fear, anger, frustration, despair.  Feel them build and swell up inside you, like a wave in the ocean.  Just when you feel like it's going to swallow you, take a deep breath and ride it out.  Cry, scream, curse, break something, whatever you feel you need to do. Then...let it go.  Let it crash.  Visualize the wave melting back into the sea, and breathe.  You are safe.  You are grounded.  You are real, and raw, and beautiful.

“No emotion, any more than a wave, can long retain its own individual form.”
~Henry Ward Beecher

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My Personal Story

December 29, 2017

My personal journey to health and fitness began as an overweight child, many years ago. My parents moved our family from the city to the country after my youngest brother was born, and while there were a couple of boys who lived relatively nearby for my brothers to play with, there were NO girls. In addition, I had to give up my beloved dance classes because the studio was too far away. As a result, I took comfort in books and food. By the time I reached middle school, I was 10 pounds overweight- which is quite a bit on a small-framed, 11 year old girl. I was starting to get teased and picked on. Several of my friends pulled away and disassociated themselves from me. And it hurt- A LOT. So I hid. And ate more. Because food was my best friend. It was always there for me, and always made me feel better- in the moment, anyway.
The turning point came for me in the 8th grade, when I decided  that I wanted to be a cheerleader once I reached high school.  I remember my mother bought me two workout albums- yes, they were vinyl record albums that came with posters illustrating the moves (which tells you how long ago this was)!  One was led by gymnast Cathy Rigby; the other by aerobics queen Joanie Greggains.  I also began walking- then jogging.  I found a diet plan in Redbook magazine that was touted by actresses Bonnie Franklin (One Day at a Time) and Joyce DeWitt (Three’s Company), both of whom became significantly thinner and fitter during their television tenures.  And while I didn’t follow the strict diet to the letter, I followed it enough to produce noticeable changes in myself.  And before I knew it, I was shaking my pom-poms on the sidelines of every football and basketball game throughout high school!  It also awakened a passion in me for health and fitness.
Five years later, after finishing college and having my daughter, I stumbled upon a classified ad in the newspaper for a preparation course on how to become a nationally-certified aerobics instructor.  Naturally this piqued my interest, so I took the course, passed the certification exam, and became an official AFAA-certified Aerobics Instructor! I taught classes for five years before deciding to take the next step and become a Personal Trainer.  Since then, I have worked with individuals from many walks of life, with various goals. I have helped obese people lose weight and gain their health and energy. I have worked with “average” folks who were not satisfied to settle for “average.” I have trained athletes to improve their strength, movement and mindset, allowing them to GREATLY improve their game. I have even helped post-rehab patients regain their strength, mobility, and confidence after suffering from serious injuries.
Today I hold numerous fitness certifications, as well as a bachelors degree in Health Promotion from Appalachian State University, which I earned while taking care of my preschool-aged son (he is now 11).  I am also a certified Lifestyle Coach for the YMCA’s Weight Management and Diabetes Prevention Programs.  The world of health and fitness is always evolving, and it is imperative to stay current on the latest research and trends.  That excites me!  Motivational speaker Tony Robbins frequently talks about the principle of CANEI, or Constant And Never Ending Improvement- and how it is necessary to live your best life, for the rest of your life!  Amen to that!
Don’t get me wrong- life is still a struggle sometimes!  I still have to consciously work on my body, mind and spirit every day of my life- and sometimes I have slips, just like everyone else!  But most of the time I feel like I am winning the battle overall, and I know you can too! 

Leaning Into 2018 With Gratitude!

December 28, 2017

I don’t know about you, but 2017 was like a roller coaster for me.  There were so many changes in such a short time- some of my own choosing, some not.  Many people came into my life, and others left- some unexpectedly.  I took risks and pursued new opportunities- some worked out, some didn’t.
And for all of it, I am grateful.  Yes, even the hard stuff.
You see, it’s easy to be grateful for the things that make us happy and feel good- family and loved ones, good friends, a comfortable home, work we enjoy, the usual things people say they are grateful for when asked.  It’s decidedly harder to be grateful for the failures, disappointments, lessons and losses in life.  But you see, it’s through the tough stuff that we can learn to be stronger.  We can be more resilient and confident.  It makes us realize what is really important to us in our lives, and makes us appreciate those things more than ever.  And that, my friends, brings greater joy.
Of course this is easier said than done.  It’s awfully hard to think about how grateful we are for a crappy mood or situation when we’re smack-dab in the middle of it.  Revisiting the roller coaster analogy:  how does it feel as you are making the first big ascent of the ride?  Exciting?  Scary?  A little of both?  It’s kind of the same when you are taking on something new, not really knowing what lies on the other side.  And as you crest over and descend, you may feel exhilerated or terrified- either way, it takes your breath away.  Then, the ride becomes relatively smooth again for a while, until the next big climb and precarious drop.  Life is kind of like that.  And every time we endure hardship, we can choose gratitude, knowing that this too shall pass.  And when you get to the other side, you can really enjoy the ride!
Happy New Year!
Catherine xoxo

The Final 2 Tips For Living Your Best Life!

October 30, 2017


Okay, before you all accuse me of being shallow, just think about it:
Would you go to work, or on a date, or to an important appointment or interview without showering, grooming, and dressing your best for the situation?  Of course not!  Why is that?
Sure, you want to impress others, but don’t you also feel more confident and powerful when you know you look your best?  Do you find that you stand a little taller, walk a little faster, smile more often?  I know I do!  So why limit that feeling to certain times and situations?
This goes for more casual situations as well!  I’m not suggesting you go to the gym in perfectly coiffed hair and full makeup, but I’m willing to bet that neatly combed hair, a clean face, and coordinating activewear can actually help you get a better workout than if you went in an old T-shirt and sweatpants with bedhead.  It’s not about the clothes, it’s about the CONFIDENCE!!!
So many of us are conditioned to put the needs, wants, and desires of others ahead of our own, only taking care of ourselves after doing so for everyone else.  Whether it’s the children, significant other, boss, colleagues, friends, family, neighbors, whomever- we feel compelled to make sure we are meeting their needs (and expectations) first and foremost.  And by the time we’re done with all that, we are so dog-tired that all we want to do is collapse on the couch and stare at a screen…
It’s often been said that you cannot give your best to others when you are not your best self.  While true, the problem with that logic is that it still implies that the needs of others should always supersede your own- and that is simply not the case!
Famed NBA coach Pat Riley once said, “Don’t let anyone else tell you what you want!”  Award-winning actress Taraji P. Henson stated, “You can’t give another human the responsibility of your happiness.  It all starts with you.”  NO ONE knows your needs, wants, and desires as well as you do, and NO ONE can meet them as well as YOU can!
So go ahead and treat yourself to an exquisite dinner for one.  Light some candles, pour some champagne and soak in a hot bubble bath.  Buy yourself a piece of jewelry, fabulous new outfit, or gorgeous bouquet of flowers.  Sign up for that class in art, music, gourmet cooking, ballroom dancing, underwater basket-weaving, whatever.  Learn a foreign language.  Adopt a puppy.  Or kitten.  Or child.  Book that vacation you’ve always dreamed about.  Or that mission trip.
Don’t wait for “someday” or “someone”- do what makes you happy, do it for yourself, and do it TODAY!

Tips #7 and #8 For Living Your Best Life!

October 23, 2017


The past is over and the future is not guaranteed- all we really have is the PRESENT!
After the financial crisis of 2007, financial guru Suze Orman offered distressed investors the following advice: “Don’t think about what you had; focus on what you have.”
These sage words do not only apply to finances!  No matter what you have lost- be it a relationship, fitness level, or something more tangible like money or possessions- dwelling on the past will never bring them back!  Learn from the past, but don’t live in it!
Conversely, being overly concerned with the future robs you of living life to the fullest today!  Typically, future-dwellers are either constantly worried about what bad things might happen, or always fantasizing about plans and possibilities- at the expense of enjoying who and where we are right now.  Stop worrying about or waiting for “someday” and make the most of today!
And when it comes to your goals and dreams for the future, take some action today– even a small one- that moves you in the direction of realizing them!  DO IT NOW!

To quote entrepreneur/NBA wife Adrian Bosch, “Don’t miss out on your moments of happiness because you’re worried about what others think!”
Realizing your happiness means being true to yourself.  Very likely, speaking and living your truth will mean disappointing people who had other ideas and plans for you.  That is precisely why so many people- especially women- feel compelled to live an uninspired, unfulfilling life.  Our own dreams and aspirations take a back seat to meeting the needs and expectations of others.
The desire to serve and nurture is a wonderful gift, and a degree of selflessness is admirable.  However, withholding your words and suppressing your needs for the sake of appeasing others is not only unhealthy, but it is dishonest.  Let that sink in.  How does it feel?
Speaking your truth can be scary, especially if it’s something you’ve never done before.  Invariably, there will be people- some of them close to you- who are put off, offended, or don’t take you seriously.  Some of these people will come around eventually, but some probably won’t.  However, there will be people who support you wholeheartedly, and be proud of you for finally finding your voice- and your TRUTH.  Surround yourself with these people!  Remember their words of encouragement whenever the urge to suppress your voice comes back.
“A friend hears the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails.”
-Pioneer Girls Leaders’ Handbook

Tips To Living Your Best Life: Numbers 5 and 6

October 16, 2017


No, I am not talking about Skittles!  I am talking about fruits and vegetables of various colors!  Did you know every color represents a different range of vitamins, minerals, and phytonutrients?  And our bodies need all of them to function at its best!  For example, bright yellow and orange represent beta carotene, which we know is important for eye health.  Red represents lycopene, a powerful antioxidant that helps prevent cancer.  Purple and blue fruits and veggies are rich in anthocyanin, another powerful antioxidant.  White onions and garlic contain allicin, which has antibacterial and antiviral properties; and mushrooms provide tremendous benefit to the immune system.  And of course green vegetables are rich in all sorts of phytonutrients, as well as chlorophyll, which has tremendous cleansing properties and helps build red blood cells, not to mention keeping your breath fresh!  And leafy greens are rich in folate, which converts to folic acid, which is an essential nutrient for everyone, but especially for women of child-bearing age. (Source:
Aim for a variety of produce with all of the colors.  If these seems overwhelming, start with adding one serving of fruit or vegetable per week, until you reach the recommended 2 cups of fruit and 2-1/2 cups of vegetables per day.  If you need creative ideas for including fruits and veggies into your diet, shoot me an email at


I don’t know about you, but the external environment makes a big difference to me in terms of focus and productivity!  I am not saying that my space needs to be spotless- trust me, it’s not!  But being surrounded by all sorts of papers and clutter that is not relevant to the task at hand is verydistracting.  Plus, it makes it that much harder to find what I do need- I hate to think of how many hours I have wasted looking for things that were misplaced or buried underneath STUFF!
I also like to do a seasonal purge- of my closet, my kitchen, my toiletries closet, you name it!  Any clothing that hasn’t been worn in the past year gets sold or donated.  Expired food and cosmetic items get tossed, as does anything outdated or broken.  Be relentless!  You will literally feel the weight of all that extra stuff being lifted off your shoulders, and it is liberating!

Tips For Living Your Best Life: Numbers 3 and 4

October 9, 2017

If you checked out my blog last week, you saw numbers 1 and 2 of my “10 Tips to Living Your Best Life!”  As promised, here are tips number 3 and 4…stay tuned for tips 5 and 6 coming soon!


One of the best ways to get over yourself is to focus on helping others.  It doesn’t have to be some grand gesture, or major sacrifice on your part!  A simple phone call, greeting card, or invitation to lunch will let those people in your life know that you are thinking of them, and it will make their day!  When you are out and about, you can make a stranger’s day with a warm smile, sincere compliment, or offer to buy their coffee in the Starbucks line!
Conversely, when others want to bless you, accept it graciously and gratefully with a heartfelt “Thank you!”  You know how good it feels to know that you’ve made someone else’s day; give them the opportunity to get that feeling by doing something for you!


Whether you call it God, The Creator, Higher Power, The Universe, or whatever, know that He/She/It is on your side, and wants to fulfill your heart’s truest desires!  Think about it- to put those desires in your heart without intention of manifesting them would be just plain cruel, and I don’t believe that is the nature of God.   
So don’t be afraid to NAME IT AND CLAIM IT!  Pray, meditate, or just shout out to the universe exactly what it is you want for your life, then consider it done and act as if it is already yours!
Is this a guarantee that you will get it?  Of course not- God is not a genie in a bottle.  BUT… just know that if this desire is in line with your true heart and life’s purpose, it WILL come to pass!  God’s delays are not His denials!  On the other hand, it may just be that He has something even better planned for you, greater than you even imagined!  HAVE FAITH…AND TRUST!!!

10 Tips For Living Your Best Life: Numbers 1 and 2

October 2, 2017

Happy October!!!

It has been a very eventful past few weeks for me, with lots of different projects going on, pulling me in many directions at home, at the Y, and with YPB-LKN.  I know so many of you out there can relate!  Between kids and school, sports and activities, work and family, volunteer and personal endeavors, the list goes on and on.

It was with this in mind that I created my newest e-booklet, “10 Tips for Living Your Best Life.”  The strategies are simple and “do-able” enough to get started on right away!  Over the next week or so I will be sharing some of the tips in this blog post.  For starters, here are Tips #1 and 2.  It is in these times that it is more important than ever to carve time out to take care of ourselves!  Remember, we cannot give what we do not have!


I am amazed by how exercise can almost always lift my spirits, even on the darkest days!  Whether it’s a brisk walk or run, bike ride, lap swim, or pumping iron, the endorphins generated by moderate to intense physical activity will lighten your heart and mind within 20 minutes- I promise!  Make it a personal goal to move at least 40-60 minutes every day!    


In contrast to number 1, it is also important to take time to stop moving!
Our society is so obsessed with what is regarded as “the glorification of busy.”  That is to say, people are constantly going, doing, and pursuing something, to the point that we as a society are chronically exhausted- and we wear it as a badge of honor!  It’s time to stop the madness!  Spend your time, energy, and focus on what is truly important, and then take time to RELAX, RECHARGE, and REGENERATE!  This means getting enough sleep regularly and consistently- and while everyone is different in regard to their optimal amount of sleep, the standard 8 hours is a good place to try and start.  This means every night- not 5 or 6 hours during the week then using the weekends to “catch up!”  Create an environment conducive to sleep:  the room should be dark, cool, and quiet, with clean, comfortable bedding.  And no TV or electronics!
Additionally, take 10-20 minutes each day in meditation, prayer, or just quiet stillness.  Turn off your phone, TV, computer, and go somewhere peaceful and comfortable, where there are no distractions.  If you can do this more than once, so much the better!  You will be amazed how much more refreshed you will feel-give it a try!